Be the best man at the wedding


Don’t forget to edit your stories

Remember, “Write drunk; edit sober” as Ernest Hemingway said.

Your speech should not be longer than 7 – 8 minutes. No one likes a never ending story so make sure your personal anecdotes are funny, snappy and have a definitive punchline.

Don’t mention the previous break-up

Most couples endure at least one temporary break-up during their relationship; this doesn’t need to be mentioned.

Don’t be sexual towards the bride’s mother

‘Cor, if she looks like Mrs [insert name here] in 20 years, he’s in for a real treat. Just look at those…’ By all means, compliment the mother, adjectives suggestive of her beauty such as “gorgeous/stunning/attractive/wonderful” are always welcomed, but don’t get too pervy – you may have a post speech lynch mob on your hands.

Don’t hog the limelight

Just remember, everyone has their moment in the spotlight and all eyes will be on you, but it doesn’t mean the speech is about your life and how the marriage will cause you to lose your drinking buddy (unless it’s mentioned briefly and in jest); force you to re-evaluate your own circumstances, or anything like that.

Don’t spill the beans too early

It’s vital to start strong and grab the room’s attention with something magical, but don’t forget, it’s just as important to end with a bang.

Suspenders, the how to’s.

As you know here at Ottavio we have the belts and suspenders. We give the ‘How to’s’ surrounding suspenders.


1. Buttons or Clips?

Suspenders should be fastened with buttons. Period. End of discussion.

2. Don’t Wear Suspenders with a Belt

Suspenders are a method for keeping your pants up. A belt is anothermethod for keeping your pants up. Don’t ever wear suspenders with a belt.

3. Are Belt Loops Okay?

Hardliners will tell you that if you’re wearing suspenders on a pair of pants with belt loops that you’re not all-in.

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There’s nothing wrong with wearing suspenders on pants with belt loops – it looks cleaner, more sophisticated and more committed if you forego the belt loops for side tabs.

4. Proper Adjustment

Suspenders used to come in different sizes/lengths. Now they have adjusters. When dialing in the right length, there’s a balance point between being too loose and too tight – the latter can lead to an uncomfortable tightening of the pants between the buttocks. Ahem.

5. Mind the Waist Size

Suspenders are best on pants that have a little room in the waist. If your pants are tight – or perfectly fitted to your waist – you don’t need suspenders. Unless, of course, you’re looking to add an unnecessary fashion accessory to your look.

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7. Formalwear

Bookending this post with another “line in the sand” item. When it comes to formalwear, suspenders are de rigueur. A belt with formal attire is a non-starter.


Traditions revolved around weddings have formed and been cemented, but as time has gone on, it looks like more couples are willing to break the rules. So we’ve got 10 of the wedding rules it’s completely okay for you to break…


The brides family pays the bill

However much the groom might be nodding his head at this tradition, it’s not something that is done so much anymore. Couples have become more independent in creating and sticking to a wedding budget that is entirely from their own purses, with maybe a little help from the parents on both sides sometimes.  Nicely spreading out the cheque book-related stress throughout the family might spare the bride’s mum and dad a few sleepless nights and heart palpitations…

Choosing that white gown

When you think bride, it’s totally normal to think of a traditional-looking, A-line, white dress. Admit it! But now designers are ranging the styles in their collection to suit all types of brides – from traditional to more quirky looks – which is something we LOVE. Don’t think it’s all about the colour white, or all about the dress hem hitting the floor, because it’s just not. Nowadays, it’s all about finding a dress that suits you and your personality, no matter what colour, length, pattern, style… anything!

Matching maids

Once you’ve picked your bridesmaids doesn’t mean you just have to pick ONE dress. In fact, a huge trend for 2015  is mismatched bridesmaids. This way you can suit each of your girls’ styles and personalities with what they wear, rather than them all conforming to the same look. And same goes for an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Unless you’ve got compulsive tendencies towards symmetry, mix up your bridal party!


You’ve spent forever planning the perfect day and in a whirlwind of friends, family, dancing, and a little too much champagne, it’s suddenly over. Before you know it, you’re preparing for a few days of pure bliss with your loved one!


Mix and match

A good rule of thumb is to stick to a sensible ratio of 80% classics and 20% standout items. Your classics should be easily matched with each other so you have plenty of options to play with.

It’s all in the detail

Lookout for items that can be easily dressed up or down in order to be worn from 8am to 8pm and beyond.

Room for romance

Treat yourself to some brand new, beautiful underwear especially for your honeymoon – After all, it’s the most romantic holiday.