Be the best man at the wedding


Don’t forget to edit your stories

Remember, “Write drunk; edit sober” as Ernest Hemingway said.

Your speech should not be longer than 7 – 8 minutes. No one likes a never ending story so make sure your personal anecdotes are funny, snappy and have a definitive punchline.

Don’t mention the previous break-up

Most couples endure at least one temporary break-up during their relationship; this doesn’t need to be mentioned.

Don’t be sexual towards the bride’s mother

‘Cor, if she looks like Mrs [insert name here] in 20 years, he’s in for a real treat. Just look at those…’ By all means, compliment the mother, adjectives suggestive of her beauty such as “gorgeous/stunning/attractive/wonderful” are always welcomed, but don’t get too pervy – you may have a post speech lynch mob on your hands.

Don’t hog the limelight

Just remember, everyone has their moment in the spotlight and all eyes will be on you, but it doesn’t mean the speech is about your life and how the marriage will cause you to lose your drinking buddy (unless it’s mentioned briefly and in jest); force you to re-evaluate your own circumstances, or anything like that.

Don’t spill the beans too early

It’s vital to start strong and grab the room’s attention with something magical, but don’t forget, it’s just as important to end with a bang.

Suspenders, the how to’s.

As you know here at Ottavio we have the belts and suspenders. We give the ‘How to’s’ surrounding suspenders.


1. Buttons or Clips?

Suspenders should be fastened with buttons. Period. End of discussion.

2. Don’t Wear Suspenders with a Belt

Suspenders are a method for keeping your pants up. A belt is anothermethod for keeping your pants up. Don’t ever wear suspenders with a belt.

3. Are Belt Loops Okay?

Hardliners will tell you that if you’re wearing suspenders on a pair of pants with belt loops that you’re not all-in.

How To Wear Suspenders - He Spoke Style

There’s nothing wrong with wearing suspenders on pants with belt loops – it looks cleaner, more sophisticated and more committed if you forego the belt loops for side tabs.

4. Proper Adjustment

Suspenders used to come in different sizes/lengths. Now they have adjusters. When dialing in the right length, there’s a balance point between being too loose and too tight – the latter can lead to an uncomfortable tightening of the pants between the buttocks. Ahem.

5. Mind the Waist Size

Suspenders are best on pants that have a little room in the waist. If your pants are tight – or perfectly fitted to your waist – you don’t need suspenders. Unless, of course, you’re looking to add an unnecessary fashion accessory to your look.

How To Wear Suspenders - He Spoke Style

7. Formalwear

Bookending this post with another “line in the sand” item. When it comes to formalwear, suspenders are de rigueur. A belt with formal attire is a non-starter.


Traditions revolved around weddings have formed and been cemented, but as time has gone on, it looks like more couples are willing to break the rules. So we’ve got 10 of the wedding rules it’s completely okay for you to break…


The brides family pays the bill

However much the groom might be nodding his head at this tradition, it’s not something that is done so much anymore. Couples have become more independent in creating and sticking to a wedding budget that is entirely from their own purses, with maybe a little help from the parents on both sides sometimes.  Nicely spreading out the cheque book-related stress throughout the family might spare the bride’s mum and dad a few sleepless nights and heart palpitations…

Choosing that white gown

When you think bride, it’s totally normal to think of a traditional-looking, A-line, white dress. Admit it! But now designers are ranging the styles in their collection to suit all types of brides – from traditional to more quirky looks – which is something we LOVE. Don’t think it’s all about the colour white, or all about the dress hem hitting the floor, because it’s just not. Nowadays, it’s all about finding a dress that suits you and your personality, no matter what colour, length, pattern, style… anything!

Matching maids

Once you’ve picked your bridesmaids doesn’t mean you just have to pick ONE dress. In fact, a huge trend for 2015  is mismatched bridesmaids. This way you can suit each of your girls’ styles and personalities with what they wear, rather than them all conforming to the same look. And same goes for an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. Unless you’ve got compulsive tendencies towards symmetry, mix up your bridal party!


You’ve spent forever planning the perfect day and in a whirlwind of friends, family, dancing, and a little too much champagne, it’s suddenly over. Before you know it, you’re preparing for a few days of pure bliss with your loved one!


Mix and match

A good rule of thumb is to stick to a sensible ratio of 80% classics and 20% standout items. Your classics should be easily matched with each other so you have plenty of options to play with.

It’s all in the detail

Lookout for items that can be easily dressed up or down in order to be worn from 8am to 8pm and beyond.

Room for romance

Treat yourself to some brand new, beautiful underwear especially for your honeymoon – After all, it’s the most romantic holiday.


Some of you are already married but be sure to pass this on to any fellows who are thinking about popping the big question.


  1. Choose a favorite place — whether it’s a fountain, hotel rooftop, monument or national park — that has personal significance to the two of you. Once you’re there, ask someone nearby to take a picture of you together, and instead of posing, drop down on one knee.
  2. Have a choir, brass band or drum line show up for a surprise performance of your fiance-to-be’s favorite love song in a park or public location for your proposal. For a really personal touch, ask the performers if they can incorporate your fiance’s name into the lyrics.
  3. Get in touch with the stage manager of your favorite production and propose after the cast’s curtain call. Call ahead and see if you can have a special note or ad placement added into the playbill, so you have a keepsake of the proposal.
  4. Arrange a surprise proposal with a street caricaturist. Have the caricaturist sketch a picture of you two with word bubbles that say, “Will you marry me?” and “Yes!”
  5. Ask the divers at an aquarium to put on a proposal show inside their biggest fish tank. Give them a (waterproof) sign that says, “Will you marry me?” to hold up against the glass and then position yourselves for what will, at first, seem like feeding time.


Anniversary or birthday coming up? Treat her and make her feel like the most special girl in the world. Some of these gifts are slightly peculiar but we promise here at Ottavio Nuccio Gala UK that she will love them.


  1. Thoughtful photo album

Put together some old snaps and make her remember all the good times you have shared.

  1. Anything on pinterest

Pinterest is everything, if you are looking for unique gifts go on there and find something for her.

  1. Concerts together

Is Beyoncé in town? BOOK THE TICKETS NOW. Well, even if Beyoncé isn’t in town, get out the house and go to a performance.

  1. Etsy

Etsy is where you kind beautiful unique handcrafted gifts. Marketing Director Sanaz Bahador bought lots for her wedding on Etsy and would really recommend it.

  1. Mix cd

Sounds old school, but nothing is better than a mixed cd of all your shared loved tunes. It will get her thinking about the good times.

  1. Fashionable gloves

Meh, sounds weird but gloves are so in style these days. Get her a pair that she can wear whilst driving so she can feel like the classiest lady in the world.

  1. Groupon

It is not cheap, it is a surprise. Groupon do an array of surprise trips for under £300 for two people – GO!

  1. Surprise visit

If she lives in another city or is working abroad, go and visit her. She will love it.

  1. A kitten, or any other cute pet

Be sure she likes animals before you go and buy her one, because it will be pretty awkward if she hates cats.

  1. Amazon list

The amazon list, every woman – actually no – everyone has an amazon list. Ask her for her account details pretending you want to buy something and buy all the things for her that are on her wish list. Remember to check out with your card though.


How many times can you go out to dinner and a movie? Not that there’s anything wrong with the quintessential date standard, but it gets boring after a while. Especially if you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, you’re probably running out of date ideas. You are still going on dates, right. Even long-term relationships need to go on a date occasionally.


So, for those of you who feel stuck in the “dating rut” here are some ideas to get you thinking.

  1. Do a restaurant tour – Pick an area with a bunch of restaurants. Start with cocktails and appetizers at a restaurant with a bar or lounge, head somewhere different for the main course and finish up someplace else with fabulous desserts.
  2. Look for treasure – Browse antique stores and flea markets. You don’t have to buy; just looking is fun.
  3. Movies with a twist – Instead of haggling over drama vs. action and settling on a comedy flick to keep the peace, why not leave it up to chance. Close your eyes and pick. Whatever it is, both have to agree to honor the choice or it’s not fun.
  4. Explore the nearest state park – Pack a picnic. Go for a hike or hit a nature trail.
  5. Rent bikes – Go on a biking tour of your area. There are often organized bike tours or routes already mapped out for you.
  6. Rent a boat for the afternoon – If a sailboat is not your thing, rent a rowboat, paddle-boat, or kayak.
  7. Attend a festival in a neighboring city.
  8. Broaden your dinner horizons – Choose a new restaurant, someplace neither of you have ever tried. Bonus points if it’s a different ethnic cuisine than you normally eat.
  9. Do some stargazing – Get a book on constellations, aim your telescope at the stars see how many you can pick out. Prefer a more professional venue? Visit a planetarium.
  10. Ghost tour – If you’re into the supernatural craze that’s storming our country, go on a ghost tour. Many towns now have “haunted houses” open for guided tours
  11. Mini Golf – Old-fashioned fun, friendly competition and inexpensive, what’s not to love.
  12. Cooking night – Make your favorite dishes together. Dinner Cruise – Whether you live by the ocean or near a lake, you can easily find dinner cruises. Brunch or moonlight cruises are also another good option.
  13. Have an indoor picnic – Serve dinner on a picnic blanket laid out in the living room. Open a bottle of wine with some favorite finger foods. An indoor picnic can be even more fun and romantic than a traditional outdoor one. It’s quieter and no interruptions!
  14. Visit a museum – Nearly everyone has a museum or several within driving distance. Plan an afternoon wandering around the exhibits. If art isn’t your thing, try a history, sport, or cultural museum.
  15. Learn a new activity together – Take a dance or photography class or learn how to play shuffleboard.
  16. Go to the theater – The Theater is a date favorite. It’s a little classier than a movie and you get to dress up and soak in some culture.
  17. Art gallery – A trip to the local art gallery is a wonderful date idea.
  18. Try new cuisine – Check out a new ethnic cuisine — something neither of you have tried before. The element of adventure will add some excitement to your date, and, who knows, maybe the two of you will find a new favorite.
  19. Be tourists for the day – Go sightseeing around your city. Stop inside places you often pass but never go into.